My Mother
My mother has vascular dementia which is a slow, horrible disease that causes the brain to slowly die, due to strokes that deprive the brain of the much needed oxygen it needs to survive. It is hard to find a BLESSING in this disease but I have found that all things in life can be blessings, if you find something you can learn from the things that God puts in your path or to seek out the good that comes from the events. As I watch my mother's memory disappear, I treasure this time with her while she still recognizes me and still knows that I am her daughter... the daughter that is there with her to help her through this time in her life when she is totally dependent upon others for her care. I am sure that no matter what state your brain is in, it must be comforting to know that you have people/family in your life that love you enough to see that your final days on earth are happy, comfortable and safe. It is not always an easy task especially since I do not live in the same town as my mother, and I have to travel 120 miles round trip just to visit. But many BLESSINGS in my life are not easy, some take work, nurturing, planning, and perseverence. Then after all of the hard work they bring me surprise, joy, happiness, love, and recognition... recognition that I am her daughter, the daughter that she raised me to be... loyal, loving, caring, and with her when she needs me most. Recognition as her daughter , that is a blessing indeed! May each of you find at least one small blessing in your life each day.
posted by Nancy @ 7:25 PM
20 Comments:
How beautiful this was! I would imagine your mother knows what a blessing she has in you.
Blessings on your mother! And on you as you lose her to this terrible disease. I'm am thankful that she remembers you at times.
That is so beautiful. What a blessing you are to your mother.
I am always trying to teach my daughter to count her blessings, and she has so many. It is so sad when people only see the cup as half-empty rather than half-full.
Blessings can come in the most surprising ways.
Cheers,
Josie
Oh Nancy what a beautiful post. I have no words but wish you comfort and peace through this hard time.
What a lovely write up of your mother. So moving.
I am so fortunate to have my mom living in the same city and I have the privilege of picking her up twice a week to bring her to church.
She did it for so many years..taking us nine chidren to Sunday School and now it is pay back time!
I found your name on Flop Flop's blog and I have some time so I thought I would pop in and say hi to you.
We went to North Carolina a couple of times to a Southern Gospel Concert.
There were so many quartets there and we just loved it!
We truly love the Americans!
The Americans are really blessed when it comes to concerts!!
We have very few here in Canada.
Well I better say so long for now and I will visit again
.
This looks like such a nice site!...From Teresa ...Welland Canada
ps My mother is 76 years old
well said Nancy.
You are a great daughter sister and friend! Love you!~CW
I will be praying for your mother and for you too. This was a beautiful post and an honor to God. It is encouraging to me to witness such an attitude, so different from what people naturally expect, giving you many chances to testify of God's grace,looking above and beyond your problems and focusing on what He has done for you.
Nancy, I so enjoy having new people visit my blog...crazy as my blog gets sometimes especially this week with my two grandkids 5 & 8 staying with us. But next week normal may return!! WHAT is normal??? Only God knows that answer! Thanks for stopping by. I am sorry to hear about your mother. My parents are still alive and very healthy at 82 and 86. I really do have great blessings...please come back again. sandy
Nancy, I so enjoy having new people visit my blog...crazy as my blog gets sometimes especially this week with my two grandkids 5 & 8 staying with us. But next week normal may return!! WHAT is normal??? Only God knows that answer! Thanks for stopping by. I am sorry to hear about your mother. My parents are still alive and very healthy at 82 and 86. I really do have great blessings...please come back again. sandy
That was a really beautiful blog. I am sorry about your mom. My husband's grandmother has dementia, so I can almost relate to what you are going through. I will keep her in my prayers. I am sure that you are just as much a blessing to her as she is to you. (((((Nancy))))))
Your comments about your mother coincide with something my father just told me. He said, "When the day comes that we (my mother and him) don't make sense, please remember to read the Bible to us. Sing hymns to us, and reach out to our spiritual side because it will still be coherent."
This was so true with my granpa. He had Alzheimers, but could still quote Psalm 1, one of his favorite passages, and at night he still tried valiantly to quote his way through the alphabet. He didn't recognize any of his family though. Amazing what God does for His children. And so important that we hide His word in our heart so it will be there for us in our old age.
Thank you for commenting about my OCC post at Writer...Interrupted!
((((((((((Nancy))))))))))
This is a beautiful post.
My Mom with through the same with my Grandma and I know she cherished every moment with her. You are in my prayers and thank you for a heartfelt post.
Thanks for visiting my blog. It made me look at yours. I was inspired by your positive nature. I know that it is difficult at times to see the positive. It is nice to find places in this world that are blessings. Remember to write your feelings down and perhaps ask your mom some questions when she is more aware---those things that you don't know.
I wish you peace and joy.
Nancy, your Mom is blessed to have you for a daughter. Hold onto all of your cherished memories and my prayers are with you and your Mom. :)
Nancy,
Just wanted to say thanks for visiting me and to let you know that both you and your Mom are in my prayers..
Thanks for stopping by.
My dad went through esophagael cancer treatment which was grueling and long. However, our family will never the same. We rely on God more and found many blessings in our pain....
My prayers go out to everyone!!!
I am praying for you and your mother......that he will give you strength, peace and continue to give you wisdom and understanding as he surely already has.
Hugs,
jenn
Nancy I am so proud of you as my sister and know what a blessing you are to so many i have read all your posts now and enjoyed them kathy
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